Infidelity Counseling for Couples and Individuals in Illinois
Helping couples heal the pain of betrayal and rebuild trust, intimacy and deep emotional connection.
It feels like your whole world has been shattered.
It may be hard to eat, sleep, parent and connect to the world. You are questioning your identity and self worth. You thought you knew your relationship and now you do not know what is real. The rage, the grief and humiliation, it’s all too much to hold. You seem to be flooded with so many questions and emotions and not sure where to even start.
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Leaving a relationship is not easy, especially if there are children involved. You feel shame for staying and fear about leaving.
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Trust can feel impossible. The one person you thought had your back has deceived you and it is difficult to even look them in the eye.
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Your partner seems to get defensive every time you broach the affair and is just ready to move forward while your pain and questions seem relentless.
I’m Helen
I will guide you to clarity amidst the crisis and chaos.
I will help you:
Communicate pain without it escalating into a fight.
Minimize obsessive thought spiraling.
Learn how to have “full disclosure” conversations without retraumatizing.
Rebuild trust incrementally, with real actions, not just promises.
Learn how to identify the unmet needs and disconnection that existed before, without using that to excuse the affair
Create a new relationship story together, rather than staying trapped in the old one.
I specialize in therapy for lasting change.
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With over 20 years of experience sitting with couples and individuals in their most vulnerable moments, I've developed a deep confidence in the healing process. Each couple I've worked with has taught me something, and that accumulated wisdom means I can navigate the most complex, painful situations with steadiness and skill rather than uncertainty. My years of work have also given me something I carry into every session: genuine hope. I've witnessed firsthand that relationships can not only survive betrayal, they can transform into something more honest, more connected, and more resilient than what existed before.
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Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is not a trend, it is backed by over 30 years of research. I choose this approach because it works and I have seen it work.
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The betrayed partner often experiences symptoms of PTSD (intrusive thoughts, hypervigilance, emotional flooding), it is important that we work through a trauma-informed lens to help navigate these symptoms.
How it works
You deserve support that truly understands.
Click this link to schedule a free, confidential consultation. Ideally, you and your partner are both available for this initial conversation. We will chat for 15 minutes so that you can feel sure we are a good fit. I will guide you toward the first step in healing, completely with no pressure. If we agree to move forward, we will then find a time for us to meet weekly for 1 hour sessions. Together, we will work toward finding peace and love again.